Carrying the weight…

Weight?!?! Taboo subject with most women, I think….sort of like never ask a woman her age….never ask her weight either! Do you ever notice how people are super quick to say something about how much weight you’ve lost…..but they whisper behind your back at how much weight you’ve gained….ever notice that, huh huh?

Well, guess what….we’re not talking about WEIGHT as in extra padding from eating too much chocolate or a Big Mac or three….we are talking about the extra EMOTIONAL WEIGHT we all carry around….men and women. Women are more quick to express when they have had enough and can’t carry the weight anymore but men carry just as much weight, I think, as women do….maybe more because of the bullshit stigma that society puts on what it “means” to be a man….hmmm, definitely something to ponder, I think. I don’t like society too much today (I’m in a mood, if you can’t tell)….the fact is we are all human and we all carry the weight of our individual lives on our shoulders or as I like to say “my backpack of life” and sometimes that backpack is ripping at the seams!

At the beginning of this year, my life changed and is continuing to change. I lost my pops, got a new job doing stuff I ain’t nevah done befo, and now my “baby” is graduating high school and moving half a world away to start her life as a “semi-adult” (semi because you know her bougie little self is going to be texting me to transfer money to her account…hahaha).

So, let’s talk about carrying the weight….I have days where I feel like my backpack of life is full and other days where it is light and easy and I have a grasp on this rollercoaster called life. On those days when my backpack is full, I want to climb back into bed and wait until the next day to start anew; but, I don’t have that option, do you? Carrying the weight around is what makes us strong….yeah, I call bullshit on that stupid phrase!! Carrying the weight around makes my back hurt!!

So, what’s the point, crazy lady….you might be asking. Ladies and Germs, I am here to tell you that it is OKAY to empty your backpack of life in whatever way feels good for you or to whomever is your “person”!! There is no need to bare the burden alone….find your path to letting go of the weight! It doesn’t make you any less of the great human being you are….it makes you BETTER by unloading because you are recognizing that you are HUMAN! Newsflash…..humans are breakable and sensitive….humans can be good…can be kind….can be real…..just breathe and let your backpack of life be empty when it’s too full….it’s okay to reach out! And for those of you who see someone carrying too much weight, be human and ask if they are okay. Imagine a world where we think of others floating down the same river of life….and we all work with one another in rowing the boat!

Enjoy your life, my friends, and be human, be kind, be good, be real.